Bonding With Your Children

Developing bonds with your children is incredibly important if you hope your child feels loved and you are able to create an intimate relationship and help give your children the parenting and the love that they need. It doesn’t matter how your child came into your life, whether he be born of your womb, adopted as a baby, toddler, or teenager. If you truly care about the well-being of the children, realize you are the guardians and support system of your child’s life. By helping guide your children’s life, teach them the way of the world through your experiences, ask about their lives, and keep an open conversation with your children every once in awhile.

When I first brought in my adopted son into my apartment, something we frequently did together was work out at the gym together. Doing physically draining activities to better ourselves with one another helped build trust and bonds between us that did nothing but enrich both of our lives. After heavy workouts, we sometimes would hit the swimming pool there as well. Swimming is soothing, what can I say? Read more “Bonding With Your Children”

Adopting a Teenager

Having been familiar with the foster care system for a while, it’s quite sad to realize that the younger children are the more likely kids to be adopted while the older kids and teenagers stay in the system for a period of time. Without a proper support system, and a loving family to help guide them through life, teenage foster kids sometimes will develop behavior problems or psychological and mental issues.

Some children who make it all the way to their teenage years without being adopted have not had the opportunity to learn many social skills and how to be apart of a family atmosphere appropriately. Many children raised in foster care have certainly not learned common family rules and the responsible and acceptable way to behave in a family. It should be expected for it to take some time for a new member of a family to learn the proper way to act in accordance with family values and actions, and they got to learn how to “fit in.”

After reading this story, I started to think up some advice on why children need to feel like a member of an adopted family, and how to progress this relationship

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Life Moves On

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The school year began shortly after, and the vibe in the house started turning from buddy-buddy, to him opening up to turning to me as his support system. I told him that as long as he had schoolwork or was actively learning, he didn’t have to help as much with chores, and to stay focused on achieving his goals. About a week into the school year after I told him this, he told me got his first job, and he wanted to pay for one of the bills.

During one of his escapades while I was at work, he took a bus to San Francisco to explore. He arrived in the downtown area and started exploring. On a whim, he saw a limo and followed it to where it appeared he had stumbled upon a wedding. When the group in the limo exited, he saw someone taking pictures, and approached the photographer. The boy is full of surprises, and he earned himself a job assisting a San Francisco wedding photographer. His first job was at a wedding at city hall that weekend. He even said I could come!

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First Time Providing

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That first night, he found his spot available on the couch, and jumped right into a deep sleep. We shared a room since my apartment was a studio, and this was the first night in a long time that someone stayed over at my place. I wasn’t exactly in the dating market, at least not being proactive about it. Most of my time was spent working and hanging out with my friends. I considered life to be okay at the time, but as I lay wide awake all night, I wondered how much indeed my life was about to change. Not only that, but I was about to change someone else’s life.

The following morning, I got up really early, and decided that since I was feeding an extra mouth for the time being, I might as well start to pre-make some meals. I learned long ago that time efficiency begins with cutting out some of the unnecessary things in life, and I considered cooking to be quite trivial. I whipped up a dozen sandwiches, put some chicken and asparagus in the oven, and started whipping up some breakfast meals.

doing the dishesTo my surprise, he woke up earlier than I thought, and walked into the kitchen to ask what he should do. Knowing that his help would make the relationship work for me, I had him clean up while I cooked and we could get to know each other while he helped, and then we would eat.
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There Are Children Everywhere

There are tons of children being raised in this world without parents to take care of them. Whether it be from the circumstances of unfit parents, a runaway child, a child in an orphanage, or one in foster care, there are children out there that need proper guidance but in no way are getting the help they need.

My day job consists of providing animal and pest control services throughout the bay area. One of our primary duties is to fumigate homes. Usually, when people request a bed bug exterminator, the house is usually ready for service. A few years back, as I was getting ready to start fumigating, I did a final sweep of the home to make sure there wasn’t anything out of place and everything necessary was vacated. As a checked the final room, I heard a cough come from the closet. I approached it, and to my surprise, there was a teenage boy hiding and trying to sleep in the closet.

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Lost Kids Throughout the World

adopting a childThe creation of life is sometimes not taken seriously by adults even after experiencing the creation and closeness of a mother and child at birth. Same goes for a father and child. While that one day may have been a beautiful and tender moment at one point in someone’s life, after life starts to happen day in and day out, people are given choices to make, and bad opportunities and experiences can cause a change in trajectory in someone’s life, and it a child’s life could begin to be damaged.

When mothers or father do not properly take care of kids, and abuse them physically, psychologically, or even just ignoring and not subjecting themselves to proper parenting, a child’s life becomes damaged.

Many children who have had traumatic experiences in bad home lives, the abandonment of parents, and those who have never had a family can only understand life from the experiences that they have had. And if there were serious experiences that negatively affected their lives, it takes a lot of guidance, help, and love to start to change that.  Read more “Lost Kids Throughout the World”

The Trials of the Unknown

Young children are only capable of understanding things that they have learned in life. The young mind is formed primarily through experience and learning what is comprehensible to them at their young age. When they are told something they do not fully understand, so begins the process of formative thought where a child comes up with their own solutions and answers to the questions and the problems that they face.

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The Best Gift Ever

Adopted children are at a clear disadvantage compared to normal children with parents.  Even when they grow older in life it’s tough to understand their side unless you’ve been there.  I’ll never forget times around Christmas and New Years are the saddest for adopted children.  Most kids during Christmas can’t wait for Santa to bring them toys and goodies.  If you live in a orphanage it’s not always as easy as that.  Many children during the holiday season never get to have the privilege of receiving any substantial gifts.  Most of the orphans will go Christmas without gifts.  I remember when I was finally adopted by two loving parents, Christmas time was a lot more fun and rewarding.  It got real old, real quick sharing a room full of other orphans after years.  Getting adopted was the biggest gift I could ever receive.  

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Athletic Orphans

Sports can play a critical role in a young kids life.  When a child is with a mother or father, an orphanage is the first place they go.  The government essentially takes care of the orphans.  It truly is a sad thought to have about young orphans.  It’s never a good thing for kids to grow up in a situation without parents to love and protect them.  Sometimes, if the kid grows up without parents then many bad things may corrupt them.  One of the best activities to get involved in is sports.  Young children regardless of age should have the chance to get out in the world and play sports.  It doesn’t matter what the sport is, whether it’s basketball, baseball, soccer, tennis, hockey, football, or golf any activity is better than sitting around a tv playing video games.  It’s always a bad habit to get into, when you’re so young and still learning.  When you’re young, your brain is like a sponge that soaks up so much information, that allowing it to divert off the natural way of growing would be terrible.  Even if you’re still a young child you want to feel like you’re doing everything you need to do to ensure you have a normal upbringing.  

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